Dueteronomy 27: 10 (NIV)
Obey the Lord your God and follow his commands and decrees that I give you today.
(4.) they imitate simple phrases; (5.) they put words together into phrases; (6.) they respond appropriately to sentences and questions.
At this age, children will seldom swear. However if they do, they usually are repeating words that mean nothing to them.
Model desirable language patterns. Speak in a positive light. Affirm children for using appropriate language. Never swear. If you hear a child at this age swear, ignore the language. If a swearing child doesn’t get any attention, he or she won’t have a reason to continue using that kind of language.
Preschoolers broaden their experiences as they spend more and more time with peers and adults other than family members. They still imitate words they hear. They eagerly repeat new and different words-such as swear words. Sometimes these children are just repeating the words because they have heard them or they like the sound of these swear words. At other times, children test adults to see what response will result when they swear.
Sometimes they seek laughter and attention. Never laugh at a child who swears, but don’t over-react either. Remain calm. If a child frequently swears, say, “Here’s another way to tell us you’re angry” or “There are many other words we can use-such as fiddlesticks, rats and shoot.” This usually will stop the swearing. If the swearing is a one-time affair, ignore it. If a child is seeking a response and you don’t give it, the swearing will stop. Involving children in meaningful Bible-learning activities will prevent swearing. When children are actively involved, they seldom exhibit behavior that needs to be changed.
Children at this age are more and more interested in peer approval rather than adult approval. Many of these kids spend much time watching television. Both friends and the media may encourage swearing and cursing. Also, children at this age are learning how to respond to their negative feelings. They may see their friends-or other adults-venting their anger by swearing. If swearing is a one-time or infrequent behavior, the most effective response is to ignore it.
A child who swears incessantly should be taken aside and dealt with directly. Say to the child: “We do not use that kind of language here. If you are upset about something, it is better to say you’re mad rather than to use those words.” When you do intervene, stress that the words are bad, not the child. Work on preventing swearing by planning exciting, meaningful activities for this age group.
Barbara Bolton is the co-author of Everything You Want to Know About Teaching Children Grades 1-6. She is a curriculum consultant and resource specialist in Ohio and has worked with children for more than 35 years.
Welcome to the Children’s Ministry of Calvary Baptist Church! At CBC we offer many opportunities for children to establish a relationship with Christ and to actively worship Him.
We believe that:
- God cares for and desires to have a relationship with children.
- Children can reach up to God through knowing Jesus, study of His Word, and prayer.
- Children can share their faith with others.
We offer many different social events and ministry opportunities throughout the year for children of all ages and levels. We want to encourage you to take just a moment to look at some of the ministry opportunities we feel would benefit your children and your entire family as you seek to raise your children in the fear and admonition of the Lord.
I’m Angie, the Children’s Director at Calvary Baptist Church. I have been a member at Calvary for 15 years now, and became the Children’s Director the summer of 2009. I am a wife to a really great guy named Jason and we have three beautiful, full of life little girls. They are nine, six, and one.
It is such a rewarding job to work with the children in our church. I receive so much joy from watching children receive and grow in their relationships with Jesus Christ.
We offer many classes, groups and events for children in the San Marcos area. We begin with newborn through fifth graders. Then off they go into our Student Ministry. What a joyful and sad moment as they mature, but after many years watching them grow, they are missed!
I am so blessed to be here, we have so many wonderful children, families and volunteers I have the privilege to serve with!
You can contact me by email at firstname.lastname@example.org